In our first year with children we cross from adulthood to parenthood. . . . We share a history with our children, come to know our partner also as a parent, see how our society really treats families. Maybe more important, we get some handle on who we are as parents—different from our parents, from common stereotypes of fathers and mothers, from peers who were parents before us. Our parenthood is not at all finished—it's fragile, a "work in progress"Mbut it's much more than we had before.