Mothers often take children's negative feelings so personally that the moment they come back from work to a moody child, a whole checklist appears before their eyes. "Was I rushed this morning? Did I forget to pack lunch right? Am I away too much?" This personalization of children's day to day moods (which I've found practically nonexistent in fathers) makes moms an easy target.... Within seconds, children pick up on your guilt and use it to gain special attention.