Parents are led to believe that they must be consistent, that is, always respond to the same issue the same way. Consistency is good up to a point but your child also needs to understand context and subtlety . . . much of adult life is governed by context: what is appropriate in one setting is not appropriate in another; the way something is said may be more important than what is said. . . .
Stanley I. Greenspan (20th century), child psychiatrist and health economist, and Nancy Thorndike Greenspan, child psychiatrist and health economist. First Feelings: Milestones in the Emotional Development of Your Baby and Child, ch. 6 (1985).