The Depression era generation of mothers, reared on the values of flag, Mom, and apple pie, believed in self-sacrifice and commitment to others. For them, the worst fate was to be independent: a spinster, or married to a man who couldn't support his family on his salary alone, and have to work. Their daughters, jolted by Vietnam, the sexual revolution, and feminism, were largely committed to themselves. For them, the worst fate was to be dependent.