Quotation by Alice Miller

The attempt to be an ideal parent, that is, to behave correctly toward the child, to raise her correctly, not to give to little or too much, is in essence an attempt to be the ideal child—well behaved and dutiful—of one's own parents. But as a result of these efforts the needs of the child go unnoticed. I cannot listen to my child with empathy if I am inwardly preoccupied with being a good mother; I cannot be open to what she is telling me.
Alice Miller (20th century), German psychoanalyst and author. For Your Own Good, "Sylvia Plath: An Example of Forbidden Suffering," (trans. 1983).
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