There are only two reasons why any child decides to give up something he wants to do or to do something he doesn't like. One is fear, and punishment is the enforcer. The other is the wish to please someone important, and love is the enforcer. Normally in everyday life both find their place and necessarily so. The important question is which predominates and grows into the prime determiner of behavior. When it is fear, the outside rules and the power of their enforcement tell the story. When it is love, self-discipline builds the structure of consciousness.