Unfortunately, we cannot rely solely on employers seeing that it is in their self-interest to change the workplace. Since the bene...fits of family-friendly policies are long-term, they may not be immediately visible or quantifiable; companies tend to look for success in the bottom line. On a deeper level, we are asking those in power to change the rules by which they themselves succeeded and with which they identify.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
We all participate in weaving the social fabric; we should therefore all participate in patching the fabric when it develops holes...--mismatches between old expectations and current realities.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
"It's hard enough to adjust [to the lack of control] in the beginning," says a corporate vice president and single mother. "But th...en you realize that everything keeps changing, so you never regain control. I was just learning to take care of the belly-button stump, when it fell off. I had just learned to make formula really efficiently, when Sarah stopped using it."LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
You may be used to a day that includes answering eleven phone calls, attending two meetings, and writing three reports; when you a...re at home with an infant you will feel you have accomplished quite a lot if you have a shower and a sit-down meal in the same day.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
We felt often that we were perceived as mothers trying to be lawyers, while a male colleague of ours who had a young child was per...ceived as a lawyer who also happened to be a father.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Many people will say to working mothers, in effect, "I don't think you can have it all." The phrase for "have it all" is code for ..."have your cake and eat it too." What these people really mean is that achievement in the workplace has always come at a price--usually a significant personal price; conversely, women who stayed home with their children were seen as having sacrificed a great deal of their own ambition for their families.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Most fathers will admit that having children does not change perceptibly the way they are treated or perceived in the workplace, e...ven if their wives work. Everyone at his workplace assumes that she will take on the responsibilities of the children and the home, even if she too is in the office all day.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »