Women had to deal with the men's response when the women wanted more time "out" of the home; men now must deal with the women's re...sponse as men want more time "in."LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
For a boy to reach adulthood feeling that he knows his father, his father must allow his emotions to be visible--hardly an easy ta...sk when most males grow up being either subtly or openly taught that this is not acceptable behavior. A father must teach his son that masculinity and feelings can go hand in hand.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
For decades child development experts have erroneously directed parents to sing with one voice, a unison chorus of values, politic...s, disciplinary and loving styles. But duets have greater harmonic possibilities and are more interesting to listen to, so long as cacophony or dissonance remains at acceptable levels.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Such joint ownership creates a place where mothers can "father" and fathers can "mother." It does not encourage mothers and father...s to compete with one another for "first- place parent." Such competition is not especially good for marriage and furthermore drives kids nuts.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
[Fatherhood] is the single most creative, complicated, fulfilling, frustrating, engrossing, enriching, depleting endeavor of a man...'s adult life.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
In a number of other cultures, fathers are not relegated to babysitter status, nor is their ability to be primary nurturers so rea...dily dismissed.... We have evidence that in our own society men can rear and nurture their children competently and that men's methods, although different from those of women, are imaginative and constructive.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
So often, as the septuagenarian reflects on life's rewards, we hear that, "in the final analysis" of money, power, prestige, and m...arriage, fathering alone was what "mattered."LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Whether the child is the father's or someone else's, if a man is involved in the physical care of his child before the age of thre...e, there is a dramatic reduction in the probability that that man will be involved later in life in sexual abuse of children in general as well as his own.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
We have seen that men are learning that work, productivity, and marriage may be very important parts of life, but they are not its... whole cloth. The rest of the fabric is made of nurturing relationships, especially those with children--relationships which are intimate, trusting, humane, complex, and full of care.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
It is undeniable that a woman's ability to stretch and pursue her total competence outside the home and get paid what she's worth ...for it makes for happier and more fulfilled women.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »