Lawrence Balter quotes

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Another appealing aspect to having grandparents is that they do help, to give [your child] a sense of continuity—of his place in... - MORE Another appealing aspect to having grandparents is that they do help, to give [your child] a sense of continuity—of his place in the world and in the generations. Not only do grandparents help him intellectually to comprehend that there are parents of parents, but they also aid him in understanding where he fits in the succession of things. Even a very young child can begin to feel a sense of rootedness and history.

Lawrence Balter

grandparents/grandparenting | generations

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You want to prepare your child to think as he gets older. You want him to be critical in his judgments. Teaching a child, by your ... - MORE You want to prepare your child to think as he gets older. You want him to be critical in his judgments. Teaching a child, by your example, that there's never any room for negotiating or making choices in life may suggest that you expect blind obedience—but it won't help him in the long run to be discriminating in choices and thinking.

Lawrence Balter

parenting styles, authoritarian

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Once you've been launched into parenthood, you'll need all your best skills, self-control, good judgment and patience. But at the ... - MORE Once you've been launched into parenthood, you'll need all your best skills, self-control, good judgment and patience. But at the same time there is nothing like the thrill and exhilaration that come from watching that bright, cheerful, inquisitive, creative, eccentric and even goofy child you have raised flourish and shine. That's what keeps you going, and what, in the end, makes it all worthwhile.

Lawrence Balter

parenthood | achievement

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The question that's probably uppermost in the child's mind is: Why do my parents want to have a baby? Don't they love me? And if t... - MORE The question that's probably uppermost in the child's mind is: Why do my parents want to have a baby? Don't they love me? And if they love me, why do they need another one? Aren't I enough? Imagine for a minute yourself in a similar situation. Your husband comes home and says: "Honey I love you so much, I've decided to go get another wife so I can have two." How would you feel?

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sibling rivalry

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Kids need to see that their parents may not always be of the same mind, that people who differ, even angrily, can continue in a lo... - MORE Kids need to see that their parents may not always be of the same mind, that people who differ, even angrily, can continue in a loving relationship,... that it's okay to argue with a loved one, and that one can do so without risking the love of the other person.

Lawrence Balter

conflict between spouses about children | parents | conflict, general

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The extent to which a parent is able to see a child's world through that child's eyes depends very much on the parent's ability to... - MORE The extent to which a parent is able to see a child's world through that child's eyes depends very much on the parent's ability to appreciate the differences between herself and her child and to respect those differences. Your own children need you to accept them for who they are, not who you would like them to be.

Lawrence Balter

individuality | children

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You and your spouse should consider the arguments you have, not as calamities in the history of your child's development, but as o... - MORE You and your spouse should consider the arguments you have, not as calamities in the history of your child's development, but as opportunities for learning. Take the opportunity to teach your children the art of and value in negotiation, and to demonstrate your ability to empathize, your willingness to compromise, and your readiness to apologize for hurt you have inflicted on others.

Lawrence Balter

conflict between spouses about children | parents | conflict, general

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Some parents feel that if they introduce their children to alcohol gradually in the home environment, the children will learn to u... - MORE Some parents feel that if they introduce their children to alcohol gradually in the home environment, the children will learn to use alcohol in moderation. I'm not sure that's such a good idea. First of all, alcohol is not healthy for the growing child. Second, introducing alcohol to a child suggests that you condone drinking—even to the point where you want to teach your child how to drink.

Lawrence Balter

special concerns of modern children | parents | drinking

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If the issue doesn't matter a whole lot, just drop it. You don't have to win every fight ... and you will not have lost any of you... - MORE If the issue doesn't matter a whole lot, just drop it. You don't have to win every fight ... and you will not have lost any of your authority by giving in when it doesn't matter very much.

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conflict between parents and children | discipline

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In a toddler's mind, agreeing with you means that he is indistinguishable from you.... The adamant little tot is fighting hard to ... - MORE In a toddler's mind, agreeing with you means that he is indistinguishable from you.... The adamant little tot is fighting hard to solidify a personal sense of Self. Selfhood sometimes requires great sacrifice and often precludes cooperation.

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toddlerhood/toddlers | self-esteem

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