The point is children lie to others for good and sufficient reasons, but they don't kid themselves. They know who did what, but th...ey feel no moral imperative to inform grownups.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Unfortunately the laughter of adults too often carries to the ears of the young the ring of ridicule, that annihilating enemy of h...uman dignity. Like grownups, children enjoy participating in a joke and appreciate admiration of their wit and cleverness, but do not enjoy being the butt of the jokesLESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
It's likely that adults from the caveman on have created their own fantasies of what children ought to be like and naturally have ...been convinced that's precisely how as children they themselves were.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
When the manipulations of childhood are a little larceny, they may grow and change with the child into qualities useful and admire... in the grown-up world. When they are the futile struggle for love and concern and protection, they may become the warped and ruthless machinations of adults who seek in the advantages of power what they could never win as children.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
This is no argument against teaching manners to the young. On the contrary, it is a fine old tradition that ought to be resurrecte...d from its current mothballs and put to work...In fact, children are much more comfortable when they know the guide rules for handling the social amenities. It's no more fun for a child to be introduced to a strange adult and have no idea what to say or do than it is for a grownup to go to a formal dinner and have no idea what fork to use.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Cuteness in children is totally an adult perspective. The children themselves are unaware that the quality exists, let alone its d...esirability, until the reactions of grownups inform them.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
We do the same thing to parents that we do to children. We insist that they are some kind of categorical abstraction because they ...produced a child. They were people before that, and they're still people in all other areas of their lives. But when it comes to the state of parenthood they are abruptly heir to a whole collection of virtues and feelings that are assigned to them with a fine arbitrary disregard for individuality.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
[Children] do not yet lie to themselves and therefore have not entered upon that important tacit agreement which marks admission i...nto the adult world, to wit, that I will respect your lies if you will agree to let mine alone. That unwritten contract is one of the clear dividing lines between the world of childhood and the world of adulthood.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The indispensable ingredient of any game worth its salt is that the children themselves play it and, if not its sole authors, shar...e in its creation. Watching TV's ersatz battles is not the same thing at all. Children act out their emotions, they don't talk them out and they don't watch them out. Their imagination and their muscles need each other.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »