The frequent failure of men to cultivate their capacity for listening has a profound impact on their capacity for parenting, for i...t is mothers more than fathers who are most likely to still their own voices so they may hear and draw out the voices of their children.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Mothers who have little sense of their own minds and voices are unable to imagine such capacities in their children. Not being ful...ly aware of the power of words for communicating meaning, they expect their children to know what is on their minds without the benefit of words. These parents do not tell their children what they mean by "good" much less why. Nor do they ask the children to explain themselves.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
While violent families often suffer from the stresses of poverty, family violence occurs at all levels of the social class structu...re. Researchers have repeatedly found violent families, whether rich or poor, to be characterized by high levels of social isolation, rigid sex-role stereotyping, poor communication, and extreme inequalities in the distribution of power among family members. These characteristics are consistently noted, whether the studies are wife battering, child abuse, or abuse of the elderly.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Ultimately, it is the receiving of the child and hearing what he or she has to say that develops the child's mind and personhood....... Parents who enter into a dialogue with their children, who draw out and respect their opinions, are more likely to have children whose intellectual and ethical development proceeds rapidly and surely.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Because mothers and daughters can affirm and enjoy their commonalities more readily, they are more likely to see how they might ad...vance their individual interests in tandem, without one having to be sacrificed for the other.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The social forces that operate on a family during the daughter's formative years continue to shape her experience. Thus the famili...es, schools, and jobs that involve poor women are likely to be very hierarchically arranged, demanding conformity, passivity, and obedience--all unsupportive of continued intellectual growth.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
It is through attentive love, the ability to ask "What are you going through?" and the ability to hear the answer that the reality... of the child is both created and respected.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »