There is absolutely no evidence--developmental or otherwise--to support separating twins in school as a general policy. . . . The ...best policy seems to be no policy at all, which means that each year, you and your children need to decide what will work best for you.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The first time many women hold their tiny babies, they are apt to feel as clumsy and incompetent as any man. The difference is tha...t our culture tells them they're not supposed to feel that way. Our culture assumes that they will quickly learn how to be a mother, and that assumption rubs off on most women--so they learn.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The loosening, for some people, of rigid role definitions for men and women has shown that dads can be great at calming babies--if... they take the time and make the effort to learn how. It's that time and effort that not only teaches the dad how to calm the babies, but also turns him into a parent, just as the time and effort the mother puts into the babies turns her into a parent.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Just because multiples can turn to each other for companionship, and at times for comfort, don't be fooled into thinking you're no...t still vital to them. Don't let or make multiples be parents as well as siblings to each other. . . . Parent interaction with infants and young children has everything to do with how those children develop on every level, including how they develop their identities.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Many people have an oversimplified picture of bonding that could be called the "epoxy" theory of relationships...if you don't get ...properly "glued" to your babies at exactly the right time, which only occurs very soon after birth, then you will have missed your chance.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The bottom line on bonding with multiples seems to be that if you see bonding as a static event--a moment in time at which you mus...t have eye contact and skin contact simultaneously with two or more infants--you may indeed be in trouble.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
If twins are believed to be less intelligent as a class than single-born children, it is not surprising that many times they are a...lso seen as ripe for social and academic problems in school. No one knows the extent to which these kind of attitudes affect the behavior of multiples in school, and virtually nothing is known from a research point of view about social behavior of twins over the age of six or seven, because this hasn't been studied either.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
What strikes many twin researchers now is not how much identical twins are alike, but rather how different they are, given the sam...e genetic makeup....Multiples don't walk around in lockstep, talking in unison, thinking identical thoughts. The bond for normal twins, whether they are identical or fraternal, is based on how they, as individuals who are keenly aware of the differences between them, learn to relate to one another.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
One of your biggest jobs as a parent of multiples is no bigger than simply talking to your children individually and requiring tha...t they respond to you individually as well. The benefits of this kind of communication can be enormous, in terms of the relationship you develop with each child, in terms of their language development, and eventually in terms of their sense of individuality, too.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
One internationally known twin researcher sees similarities between twins' relationships and those of couple who have been married... a long time. Fifteen-year-old twins, as well as spouses approaching their fortieth anniversary, each know their partners' likes, dislikes, habits, and idiosyncracies as well as they know their own.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »