If you expect complete honesty, you'll be disappointed. And don't expect gratitude for your parenting efforts. Do expect that you'...ll feel like you're on a yo-yo--intimate with your child one day, distant the next. As long as she's safe, don't invade her world. Remember: most teens end up being closer to their parents after adolescence than they were before.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The fact that the mental health establishment has equated separation with health, equated women's morality with soft-heartedness, ...and placed mothers on the psychological hot seat has taken a toll on modern mothers.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
As fathers, men often feel either like guests in their own homes or clumsy bulls in china shops, deferring to their wives as the "...emotional experts" and squelching their own wish to be fully involved.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
To be a good parent, separation is only half the picture. In our fragmented, supercharged, fast-paced world, figuring out how to s...tay connected to our kids is the real challenge--and the other half--of good parenting.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The upbeat lawyer/negotiator of preadolescence has become a real pro by now--cynical, shrewd, a tough cookie. You're constantly em...broiled in a match of wits. You're exhausted.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
If we always speak in the calm reflective, therapeutic tone that works very well with younger children (and it is advised in many ...child-rearing books), preteens look at us as if we're nuts! After a kid acts like a sarcastic pain in the you-know-what, don't you think he knows what he's been doing? He can see right through your calm, cool, collected exterior!LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Once you have a child, you change so much along the way, you don't even recognize yourself by the time they're ready to move out!LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Contrary to popular belief, children (even adolescents) are not only pushing for independence, they are pushing for contact and co...nnection. It is a major error to think independence is all they are after.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
If you think about it, a peer group is nothing but an empathic envelope without adults around. It has the same three characteristi...cs of a family. It has its own type of empathy ("We understand you, even if no one else does."); it has clear expectations ("Break rules and you're out."); and it offers kids a chance to spend time with one another.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »