Current conflicts and guilt about being a woman who is a mother and a person in her own right are a socially defined malaise, not ...an individual problem.... The conflict is not between being a mother and having a career; it is between nineteenth-century ideas about children and today's ideas about women.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Mothers have not always had the most important role in their children's upbringing, when they had other economic roles to play. In... past centuries, fathers were the key parent in the upbringing of the next generation, because moral training, not emotional sensitivity, was thought to be central to successful child-rearing. Mothers were thought to corrupt their little ones with too much affection and not enough stern training.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
We know that babies develop as well in nonmaternal as in maternal care, as long as the care is of good quality. The issue is not w...ho gives the care but the quality of that care,... The guilt trip is, in my view, a hangover of another era and of unacknowledged tactics to keep women in their proper place--at home full-time.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The best way of thinking of an attachment in my view, is to see it as the outcome of an interaction between two people, each of wh...om contributes to the quality of the relationship. Most parents can promote a secure relationship with a calm, pleasant, patient baby. Only particularly sensitive and patient parents can promote a secure attachment to a difficult baby.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Children are just different from one another, especially in temperament. Some are shy, others bold; some active, others quiet; som...e confident, others less so. Respect for individual differences is in my view the cornerstone of good parent-child relationships.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Day care poses no risk for children, provided that it is high quality.... Poor quality day care is risky for children everywhere....... The cost of poor quality day care is measured in children's lives. High quality day care costs only money.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »