That a good fit between parental handling and child temperament is vital to help children adapt to the imperatives of their societ...y is a crucial concept that can be applied to other cultures.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
While girls [age 9ââ¬â12] appear to have much more social know-how, they are characteristically cliquey, disloyal, cruel..., insecure, and a bit bitchy now. Today's best friend becomes tomorrow's discard. Parents watch in horror at what seem to be total personality changes in previously lovely, upright little girls. Sometimes girls are just as unsettled by their behavior as the disapproving elders who watch them. Sometimes they are unregenerate, relishing their freewheeling and dealing.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Your well-tempered guiding effort keeps your adventurous, enthusiastic, active ever-learning toddler from becoming passive, docile..., and limp, without drive, will to learn, or interest in your company. Your skillful handling keeps her from turning into a bundle of rebellion and unfocused negativism, getting her kicks out of grownups' anger rather than their pleasure and approval. And with experience and growing understanding she gradually learns how to operate relatively easily and peacefully in the world.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Life begins at six--at least in the minds of six-year-olds. . . . In kindergarten you are the baby. In first grade you put down th...e baby. . . . Every first grader knows in some osmotic way that this is real life. . . . First grade is the first step on the way to a place in the grown-up world.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Adolescents may be, almost simultaneously, overconfident and riddled with fear. They are afraid of their overpowering feelings, of... losing control, of helplessness, of failure. Sometimes they act bold, to counteract their imperious yearnings to remain children. They are impulsive, impetuous, moody, disagreeable, overdemanding, underappreciative. If you don't understand them, remember, they don't understand themselves most of the time.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The trick, which requires the combined skills of a tightrope walker and a cordon bleu chef frying a plain egg, is to take your [pr...eteen] daughter seriously without taking everything she says and does every minute seriously.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
An actress reading a part for the first time tries many ways to say the same line before she settles into the one she believes sui...ts the character and situation best. There's an aspect of the rehearsing actress about the girl on the verge of her teens. Playfully, she is starting to try out ways to be a grown-up person.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
You just can't predict the course of friendship among girls at this age [9ââ¬â12]. There's a need--varying in intensity ...according to the individual--for Gibraltar-like attachments in this betwixt-and-between period. Impressive sophistication and maturity exist side by side with fearsome anxiety about the changing body, the person-to-be. The "best friends" are anchors against these tides of confusion. . . . Girls need the support and backing of a group to relieve their anxieties about who they are and who they're going to be.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
You can read the best experts on child care. You can listen to those who have been there. You can take a whole childbirth and chil...d-care course without missing a lesson. But you won't really know a thing about yourselves and each other as parents, or your baby as a child, until you have her in your arms. That's the moment when the lifelong process of bringing up a child into the fold of the family begins.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Fathers are still considered the most important "doers" in our culture, and in most families they are that. Girls see them as the ...family authorities on careers, and so fathers' encouragement and counsel is important to them. When fathers don't take their daughters' achievements and plans seriously, girls sometimes have trouble taking themselves seriously.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »