The writer who loses his self-doubt, who gives way as he grows old to a sudden euphoria, to prolixity, should stop writing immedia...tely: the time has come for him to lay aside his pen.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Long before your child sets foot in his dorm, you'll begin the transition to college-style parent. It's a transition fraught with ...misgivings and exuberance, with self-doubt and bursts of confidence, with joyful letting go and tearful hanging on. And in case you think these refer only to your child's feelings, they don't. These [emotions] besiege just about every parent along about second semester of junior year in high school. That's when the reality sets in that your child--not someone else's this time--will be going off to college.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
We have become unsure of the rules and unsure of our roles. Parenting, like brain surgery, is now all-consuming, fraught with anxi...ety, worry, and self-doubt. We have allowed what used to be simple and natural to become bewildering and intimidating.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Our children evaluate themselves based on the opinions we have of them. When we use harsh words, biting comments, and a sarcastic ...tone of voice, we plant the seeds of self-doubt in their developing minds.... Children who receive a steady diet of these types of messages end up feeling powerless, inadequate, and unimportant. They start to believe that they are bad, and that they can never do enough.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
As a medium of exchange,... worrying regulates intimacy, and it is often an appropriate response to ordinary demands that begin to... feel excessive. But from a modernized Freudian view, worrying--as a reflex response to demand--never puts the self or the objects of its interest into question, and that is precisely its function in psychic life. It domesticates self-doubt.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The good father does not have to be perfect. Rather, he has to be good enough to help his daughter to become a woman who is reason...ably self-confident, self-sufficient, and free of crippling self-doubt, and to feel at ease in the company of men.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The first full-fledged generation of women in the professions did not talk about their overbooked agenda or the toll it took on th...em and their families. They knew that their position in the office was shaky at best. . . . If they suffered self-doubt or frustration . . . they blamed themselves--either for expecting too much or for doing too little.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
I know what love is. It's understanding. It's you and me and let the rest of the world go by. Just the two of us living our lives ...together happily and proudly. No self-torture and no doubt. It's enduring and it's everlasting. Nothing can change it. Nothing can change us, Ollie. That's what I think love is.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
'Tis said that courage is common, but the immense esteem in which it is held proves it to be rare. Animal resistance, the instinct... of the male animal when cornered, is no doubt common; but the pure article, courage with eyes, courage with conduct, self-possession at the cannon's mouth, cheerfulness in lonely adherence to the right, is the endowment of elevated characters.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »