As one child psychologist friend of mine explains it with tongue in cheek, your baby only needs a lot of light at night if he's re...ading or he's entertaining guests.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Each home has been reduced to the bare essentials--to barer essentials than most primitive people would consider possible. Only on...e woman's hands to feed the baby, answer the telephone, turn off the gas under the pot that is boiling over, soothe the older child who has broken a toy, and open both doors at once. She is a nutritionist, a child psychologist, an engineer, a production manager, an expert buyer, all in one. Her husband sees her as free to plan her own time, and envies her; she sees him as having regular hours and envies him.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Play permits the child to resolve in symbolic form unsolved problems of the past and to cope directly or symbolically with present... concerns. It is also his most significant tool for preparing himself for the future and its tasks.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The only effective way to help well-intentioned, intelligent persons to do the best they can in raising children is to encourage a...nd guide them always to do their own thinking in their attempts at understanding and dealing with child-rearing situations and problems, and not to rely blindly on the opinions of others.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The good enough parent, in addition to being convinced that whatever his child does, he does it because at that moment he is convi...nced this is the best he can do, will also ask himself: "What in the world would make me act as my child acts at this moment? And if I felt forced to act this way, what would make me feel better about it?"LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The good enough mother, owing to her deep empathy with her infant, reflects in her face his feelings; this is why he sees himself ...in her face as if in a mirror and finds himself as he sees himself in her. The not good enough mother fails to reflect the infant's feelings in her face because she is too preoccupied with her own concerns, such as her worries over whether she is doing right by her child, her anxiety that she might fail him.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
As Anna Freud remarked, the toddler who wanders off into some other aisle, feels lost, and screams anxiously for his mother never ...says "I got lost," but accusingly says "You lost me!" It is a rare mother who agrees that she lost him! she expects her child to stay with her; in her experience it is the child who has lost track of the mother, while in the child's experience it is the mother who has lost track of him. Each view is entirely correct from the perspective of the individual who holds it .LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
To be a good enough parent one must be able to feel secure in one's parenthood, and one's relation to one's child...The security o...f the parent about being a parent will eventually become the source of the child's feeling secure about himself.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The parent must not give in to his desire to try to create the child he would like to have, but rather help the child to develop--...in his own good time--to the fullest, into what he wishes to be and can be, in line with his natural endowment and as the consequence of his unique life in history.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The goal in raising one's child is to enable him, first, to discover who he wants to be, and then to become a person who can be sa...tisfied with himself and his way of life. Eventually he ought to be able to do in his life whatever seems important, desirable, and worthwhile to him to do; to develop relations with other people that are constructive, satisfying, mutually enriching; and to bear up well under the stresses and hardships he will unavoidably encounter during his life.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »