But that intimacy of mutual embarrassment, in which each feels that the other is feeling something, having once existed, its effec...t is not to be done away with.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Love's boat has been shattered against the life of everyday. You and I are quits, and it's useless to draw up a list of mutual hur...ts, sorrows, and pains.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Whoever takes a view of the life of man ... will find it so beset and hemm'd in with obligations of one kind or other, as to leave... little room to suspect, that man can live to himself: and so closely has our creator link'd us together ... that we find this bond of mutual dependence ... is too strong to be broke.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
We must learn to differentiate between fears and anxieties. Fears are states of apprehension which focus on isolated and recogniza...ble dangers so that they may be judiciously appraised and realistically countered. Anxieties are diffuse states of tension (caused by a loss of mutual regulation and a consequent upset in libidinal and aggressive controls) which magnify and even cause the illusion of an outer danger, without pointing to appropriate avenues of defense or mastery. These two forms of apprehension obviously often occur together, and we can insist on a strict separation only for the sake of the present argument. If, in an economic depression, a man is afraid that he may lose his money, his fear may be justified. But if the idea of having to live on an income only ten times, instead of twenty-five times as large as that of his average fellow-citizen causes him to lose his nerve and to commit suicide, then we must consult our clinical formulas.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
It is possible to make friends with our children--but probably not while they are children.... Friendship is a relationship of mut...ual dependence-interdependence. A family is a relationship in which some of the participants are dependent on others. It is the job of parents to provide for their children. It is not appropriate for adults to enter into parenthood recognizing they have made a decision to accept dependents and then try to pretend that their children are not dependent on them.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
I describe family values as responsibility towards others, increase of tolerance, compromise, support, flexibility. And essentiall...y the things I call the silent song of life--the continuous process of mutual accommodation without which life is impossible.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Most childhood problems don't result from "bad" parenting, but are the inevitable result of the growing that parents and children ...do together. The point isn't to head off these problems or find ways around them, but rather to work through them together and in doing so to develop a relationship of mutual trust to rely on when the next problem comes along.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Beautiful credit! The foundation of modern society. Who shall say that this is not the golden age of mutual trust, of unlimited re...liance upon human promises? That is a peculiar condition of society which enables a whole nation to instantly recognize point and meaning in the familiar newspaper anecdote, which puts into the mouth of a distinguished speculator in lands and mines this remark:M"I wasn't worth a cent two years ago, and now I owe two millions of dollars."LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »