School success is not predicted by a child's fund of facts or a precocious ability to read as much as by emotional and social meas...ures; being self-assured and interested: knowing what kind of behavior is expected and how to rein in the impulse to misbehave; being able to wait, to follow directions, and to turn to teachers for help; and expressing needs while getting along with other children.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Although pretend play is important, it is still the means to an end, not the end itself. Do not make the mistake of thinking a con...trived, pretend drama can substitute for real interpersonal comfort in dealing with important emotional issues.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Even if you find yourself in a heated exchange with your toddler, it is better for your child to feel the heat rather than for him... to feel you withdraw emotionally.... Active and emotional involvement between parent and child helps the child make the limits a part of himself.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
In Sumter and other counties [in South Carolina] the whites are resorting to intimidation and violence to prevent the colored peop...le from organizing for the elections. The division there is still on the color line. Substantially all the whites are Democrats and all the colored people are Republicans. There is no political principle in dispute between them. The whites have the intelligence, the property, and the courage which make power. The negroes are for the most part ignorant, poor, and timid. My view is that the whites must be divided there before a better state of things will prevail.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The most important emotional accomplishment of the toddler years is reconciling the urge to become competent and self-reliant with... the longing for parental love and protection.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Being apart is always experienced by the child, at some level, as the equivalent of being left. There is an unspoken belief, "If y...ou loved me most of all, if I was the most important thing in your life, you would never leave me." The only way to reconcile the child with this unmovable conviction is to provide abundant proof, through emotional availability and responsiveness, that he does not need to be the only important thing in your life in order to be loved well enough and deeply enough.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Much of the emotional turmoil in the second year revolves around the difficult task of integrating the child's will into the famil...y constellation. The child learns that her personal wishes (so cherished, seemingly so right) need to fit reasonably well with what others want. The parents learn that they, too, have to say "no" with firmness and conviction but hopefully without harshness.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Even when they cannot be always available, the parents' fierce, unique love for their child makes them different in the child's he...art and mind from all other caregivers. In spite of a long working day, a parent's passion for his or her child retains its many nuances of emotional intensity, ranging from rapture and delight to impatience and even rage, that no other relationship in the child's life can match. Even very young infants are smart enough to recognize this passionate commitment and to reciprocate it in kind.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »