Traditionally, marriage involved a kind of bartering, rather than mutual inter-dependence or role sharing. Husbands financially an...d economically supported wives, while wives emotionally, psychologically and socially supported husbands. He brought home the bacon, she cooked it. He fixed the plumbing, she the psyche.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
... there were the hangers-on, students who became involved in the movement--any movement--because it was emotionally satisfying. ...At Chicago, there are few activities in which "everybody" participates, and the lack is especially felt by the younger undergraduates. A sit-in can fuse them into a hot, steamy mass of singing, changing, touching bodies. It encourages such communal acts as sharing a blanket and eating from the same jar of peanut butter. It is not surprising that they come out of it--a few days of it, anyway--feeling that they have had something akin to a religious experience.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Within Western medicine, physically ill people approach medical helpers in a manner much different from the psychologically ill. P...hysically ill people bring sick bodies to physicians; emotionally ill people bring sick souls to psychotherapists. Differences in these two forms of helping are visible even in the language; the person in need of medical help is always a "patient," while the person in need of psychotherapy is often a "client." Each form of helping has a particular way of approaching the person needing help. Medical patients are treated, taken care of, and made better by the doctor. Psychotherapy clients must be actively engaged in their healing.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
... not only have we exploited them physically and economically to bring ease to our bodies and our purses, but also we have explo...ited them emotionally to bring us many sublimated satisfactions. Our relationship with Negroes is a many-stringed instrument upon which we play melodies to replenish all the empty places in our hearts.... The parent-child relationship is almost consciously acted out, with the obedience, seeming respect, and acceptance by "our Nigras" going far toward soothing heartaches for the rebellion, arrogance, and rejection we must endure as our real children seize their own lives from us in adolescence. Even the reverse, the child-parent role, is sometimes filled, as we play the part of babyhood helplessness, satisfying immature longings to be waited on and taken care of.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Today's fathers and mothers--with only the American dream for guidance--extend and overextend themselves, physically, emotionally,... and financially, during the best years of their lives to ensure that their children will grow up prepared to do better and go further than they did.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Children who grow up in stimulating, emotionally supportive, highly verbal, and protective environments where the caretaker teache...s and models skill development are usually ready for school. When the child is able to meet expectations, he or she receives praise or a positive feedback in school. This also compliments the caretaker--a child-rearing job well done. The caretaker or parent and school people feel good about each other. The child receives a message from parents that the school program is good. The positive emotional bond between parents and child is extended to the school. The school staff can then serve as parent surrogates. This facilitates learning.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
If we confine ourselves to one life role, no matter how pleasant it seems at first, we starve emotionally and psychologically. We ...need a change and balance in our daily lives. We need sometimes to dress up and sometimes to lie around in torn jeans. . . . Even a grimy factory can afford some relief from a grimy kitchen and vice versa.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Just as we need to encourage women to test life's many options, we need to acknowledge real limits of energy and resources. It wou...ld be pointless and cruel to prescribe role combination for every woman at each moment of her life. Life has its seasons. There are moments when a woman ought to invest emotionally in many different roles, and other moments when she may need to conserve her psychological energies.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
There is only one place for the women who served and that is on the same site with our brother soldiers. These women have touched ...thousands of those names on the wall. We have to be at that spot, physically, spiritually and emotionally.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The words "house" and "home" are a shorthand for two ways of thinking about the family, but it needs to be pointed out that they d...id not go through history as a pair. "House" is almost a dead word, used today only to refer to things grand and historical. People in the past did not use "home" in the emotionally loaded way we do. The Romance languages do not even have an equivalent word for "home" and have to call other words into service for expressing the modern concept.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »