We cannot set aside an hour for discussion with our children and hope that it will be a time of deep encounter. The special moment...s of intimacy are more likely to happen while baking a cake together, or playing hide and seek, or just sitting in the waiting room of the orthodontist.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
One of life's primal situations; the game of hide and seek. Oh, the delicious thrill of hiding while the others come looking for y...ou, the delicious terror of being discovered, but what panic when, after a long search, the others abandon you! You mustn't hide too well. You mustn't be too good at the game. The player must never be bigger than the game itself.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
As long as lightly all their livelong sessions, Like a yardful of schoolboys out at recess... Before their plays and games were organized, They yelling mix tag, hide-and-seek, hopscotch, And leapfrog in each other's way all's well.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Unfortunately, life may sometimes seem unfair to middle children, some of whom feel like an afterthought to a brilliant older sibl...ing and unable to captivate the family's attention like the darling baby. Yet the middle position offers great training for the real world of lowered expectations, negotiation, and compromise. Middle children who often must break the mold set by an older sibling may thereby learn to challenge family values and seek their own identity.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Almost everything we call "higher culture" is based on the spiritualization of cruelty, on its becoming more profound: this is my ...proposition. That "savage animal" has not really been "mortified"; it lives and flourishes, it has merely become--divine. What constitutes the painful voluptuousness of tragedy is cruelty; what seems agreeable in so-called tragic pity, and at bottom in everything sublime, up to the highest and most delicate shudders of metaphysics, receives its sweetness solely from the admixture of cruelty. What the Roman in the arena, the Christian in the ecstasies of the cross, the Spaniard at an auto-da-fe or bullfight, the Japanese of today when he flocks to tragedies, the laborer in a Parisian suburb who feels a nostalgia for bloody revolutions, the Wagnerienne who "submits to" Tristan and Isolde, her will suspended--what all of them enjoy and seek to drink in with mysterious ardor are the spicy potions of the great Circe, "cruelty."LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Those who forget good and evil and seek only to know the facts are more likely to achieve good than those who view the world throu...gh the distorting medium of their own desires.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
If I had my mouth, I would bite; if I had my liberty, I would do my liking. In the meantime, let me be that I am, and seek not to ...alter me.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Help me to seek, for I lost it there And if that ye have found it, ye that be here,... And seek to convey it secretly, Handle it soft and treat it tenderly, Or else it will plain and then appear:LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
If we view our children as stupid, naughty, disturbed, or guilty of their misdeeds, they will learn to behold themselves as foolis...h, faulty, or shameful specimens of humanity. They will regard us as judges from whom they wish to hide, and they will interpret everything we say as further proof of their unworthiness. If we view them as innocent, or at least merely ignorant, they will gain understanding from their experiences, and they will continue to regard us as wise partners.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
You see, a person of my acquaintance used to divide people into three categories: those who would prefer to have nothing to hide t...han have to lie, those who would rather lie than have nothing to hide, and finally those who love both lies and secrets.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »