The glorious dream of full father involvement in infant care will not become a widespread reality overnight. But it can happen, an...d it eventually will happen,... A lot of progress may take place in a short period of time if we just lighten up, step back, and give the guys a decent chance.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Adolescents, for all their self-involvement, are emerging from the self-centeredness of childhood. Their perception of other peopl...e has more depth. They are better equipped at appreciating others' reasons for action, or the basis of others' emotions. But this maturity functions in a piecemeal fashion. They show more understanding of their friends, but not of their teachers.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The mother whose self-image is dependent on her children places on those children the responsibility for her own identity, and her... involvement in the details of their lives can put great pressure on the children. A child suffers when everything he or she does is extremely important to a parent; this kind of over-involvement can turn even a small problem into a crisis.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The history of theater from the medieval period until the nineteenth century has been in large part a history of further and furth...er separations of the scene of dramatic action from the physical situation of the audience. Even as the subject matter--in the plays of Ibsen, Chekhov, and Strindberg--became more and more continuous with the life of the audience, the stage itself pulled in its apron, emphasized its proscenium, and became a room with an invisible fourth wall, allowing the audience to look in, while keeping it more definitely outside. The progress of film was the reverse. From the stylized and theatrical settings of the early dramas, silent films moved into greater and greater involvement with the actors. Previously the audience saw actors from a distance, with a sense of tableau and formal separation. Although they seemed to be like us, they were not: silent, hieratic, caught in frightened frenzies of comedy, tragedy, and melodrama.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
In the planning and designing of new communities, housing projects, and urban renewal, the planners both public and private, need ...to give explicit consideration to the kind of world that is being created for the children who will be growing up in these settings. Particular attention should be given to the opportunities which the environment presents or precludes for involvement of children with persons both older and younger than themselves.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
I recommend limiting one's involvement in other people's lives to a pleasantly scant minimum. This may seem too stoical a position... in these madly passionate times, but madly passionate people rarely make good on their madly passionate promises.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Combining paid employment with marriage and motherhood creates safeguards for emotional well-being. Nothing is certain in life, bu...t generally the chances of happiness are greater if one has multiple areas of interest and involvement. To juggle is to diminish the risk of depression, anxiety, and unhappiness.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Juggling produces both practical and psychological benefits.... A woman's involvement in one role can enhance her functioning in a...nother. Being a wife can make it easier to work outside the home. Being a mother can facilitate the activities and foster the skills of the efficient wife or of the effective worker. And employment outside the home can contribute in substantial, practical ways to how one works within the home, as a spouse and as a parent.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
By sharing the information and observations with the caregiver, you have a chance to see your child through another pair of eyes. ...Because she has some distance and objectivity, a caregiver often sees things that a parent's total involvement with her child doesn't allow.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
It may be tempting to focus on the fact that, even among those who support equality, men's involvement as fathers remains a far di...stance from what most women want and most children need. Yet it is also important to acknowledge how far and how fast many men have moved towards a pattern that not long ago virtually all men considered anathema.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »