The real trouble about women is that they must always go on trying to adapt themselves to men's theories of women, as they always ...have done. When a woman is thoroughly herself, she is being what her type of man wants her to be. When a woman is hysterical it's because she doesn't quite know what to be, which pattern to follow, which man's picture of woman to live up to.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Do not put yourself forward in the king's presence or stand in the place of the great; for it is better to be told, "Come up here,..." than to be put lower in the presence of a noble.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The twenties are tryout years and what motivates young people are two contradictory impulses. The urge to create a structure that ...will serve their needs into the (barely) foreseeable future and the fear of being locked into a life pattern that will ultimately prove unsatisfying or limited.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
I had heard so much about how hard it was supposed to be that, when they were little, I thought it would be horrible when they got... married and left. But that's silly you know. . . . By the time they grow up, they change and you change. Eventually, they're not the same little kids and you're not the same mother. It's as if everything just falls into a pattern and you're ready.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Predictions of the future are never anything but projections of present automatic processes and procedures, that is, of occurrence...s that are likely to come to pass if men do not act and if nothing unexpected happens; every action, for better or worse, and every accident necessarily destroys the whole pattern in whose frame the prediction moves and where it finds its evidence.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
What, then, is the basic difference between today's computer and an intelligent being? It is that the computer can be made to see ...but not to perceive. What matters here is not that the computer is without consciousness but that thus far it is incapable of the spontaneous grasp of pattern--a capacity essential to perception and intelligence.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
If you have ever watched an artist constructing with bits of cold stone a beautiful living picture you know that he works faithful...ly and carefully on the pattern from the wrong side and while he is working every inequality, every tint a little too dull is apparent to him as his picture grows, but he works on and on. And even when he finishes at last and looks down at the completed pattern he is not discouraged to see here a little crevice and there a little roughness, an open seam here, a tiny patch there where the bit of marble was too small. Now he pours his cement over it and smoothes [sic] it into every seam, and with faith puts his work to dry. Next day the pattern is turned and the perfect whole is given to view, needing only the polishing of a loving hand to make it ready to slip in place. So we should work faithfully on our pattern, cement it together with ourselves, and polish it with human kindness; and lo! the work slips into place seemingly a perfect whole.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
In different life prints, stress will be felt intensely at different times. The woman who is trying to juggle young children and a... demanding job may feel the most pressure in her late twenties and early thirties, but by her forties her investment in the job will be paying off and the demands of the family will be lessening. The woman who has been a homemaker in a very traditional pattern may experience a great deal of stress around the issue of redefining her life as the active role of mothering comes to an end.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Our national experience in Americanizing millions of Europeans whose chief wish was to become Americans has been a heady wine whic...h has made us believe, as perhaps no nation before us has ever believed, that, given the slimmest chance, all peoples will pattern themselves upon our model.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »