You and your spouse should consider the arguments you have, not as calamities in the history of your child's development, but as o...pportunities for learning. Take the opportunity to teach your children the art of and value in negotiation, and to demonstrate your ability to empathize, your willingness to compromise, and your readiness to apologize for hurt you have inflicted on others.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Odors from decaying food wafting through the air when the door is opened, colorful mold growing between a wet gym uniform and the ...damp carpet underneath, and the complete supply of bath towels scattered throughout the bedroom can become wonderful opportunities to help your teenager learn once again that the art of living in a community requires compromise, negotiation, and consensus.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
It is accordance with our determination to refrain from aggression and build up a sentiment and practice among nations more favora...ble to peace ... that we have incurred the consent of fourteen important nations to the negotiation of a treaty condemning recourse to war, renouncing it as an instrument of national policy.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Girls . . . were allowed to play in the house . . . and boys were sent outdoors. . . . Boys ran around in the yard with toy guns g...oing kksshh-kksshh, fighting wars for made-up reasons and arguing about who was dead, while girls stayed inside and played with dolls, creating complex family groups and learning how to solve problems through negotiation and roleplaying. Which gender is better equipped, on the whole, to live an adult life, would you guess?LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Unfortunately, life may sometimes seem unfair to middle children, some of whom feel like an afterthought to a brilliant older sibl...ing and unable to captivate the family's attention like the darling baby. Yet the middle position offers great training for the real world of lowered expectations, negotiation, and compromise. Middle children who often must break the mold set by an older sibling may thereby learn to challenge family values and seek their own identity.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Since it is fathers, much more than mothers, who are absent, it is not surprising that children often seem to prefer their fathers..., because they so desperately crave Dad's longed-for, reassuring presence. In the delicate balance of a child's emotional negotiation, it makes perfect sense to impart to fathers heroic qualities. Surely, they think, Daddy would be here if he could; he must be doing something very important out there.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Relying on any one disciplinary approach--time-out, negotiation, tough love, the star system--puts the parenting team at risk. Why...? Because children adapt to any method very quickly; today's effective technique becomes tomorrow's worn dance.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
It would be naive to think that peace and justice can be achieved easily. No set of rules or study of history will automatically r...esolve the problems.... However, with faith and perseverance,... complex problems in the past have been resolved in our search for justice and peace. They can be resolved in the future, provided, of course, that we can think of five new ways to measure the height of a tall building by using a barometer.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
During my administration the most unpleasant and perhaps most dramatic negotiations in which we participated were with the various... leaders of Iran after the seizure of American hostages in November 1979. The Algerians were finally chosen as the only intermediaries who were considered trustworthy both by me and the Ayatollah Khomeini. After many aborted efforts, final success was achieved during my last few hours in the White House.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Although military, economic and political strength certainly favors the more powerful side, the matter of simple justice is a coun...terbalancing factor.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »