The Sun shone whole at intervals--/Then Half--then utter hid--/As if Himself were optional/And had Estates of Cloud/Sufficient to ...enfold Him/Eternally from view--LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Americans, we find, are not having much partnered sex at all--at least not much compared to what we are told is a normal or option...al amount. And those people who are supposed to have the most sexual intercourse are having it less often than those who are supposed to be having intercourse the least.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
... social roles vary in the extent to which it is culturally permissible to express ambivalence or negative feelings toward them.... Ambivalence can be admitted most readily toward those roles that are optional, least where they are considered primary. Thus men repress negative feelings toward work and feel freer to express negative feelings toward leisure, sex and marriage, while women are free to express negative feelings toward work but tend to repress them toward family roles.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
I've always thought a hotel ought to offer optional small animals.... I mean a cat to sleep on your bed at night, or a dog of some... kind to act pleased when you come in. You ever notice how a hotel room feels so lifeless?LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Our father presents an optional set of rhythms and responses for us to connect to. As a second home base, he makes it safer to roa...m. With him as an ally--a love--it is safer, too, to show that we're mad when we're mad at our mother. We can hate and not be abandoned, hate and still love.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »