No one to blame!... That was why most people led lives they hated, with people they hated.... How wonderful to have someone to bla...me! How wonderful to live with one's nemesis! You may be miserable, but you feel forever in the right. You may be fragmented, but you feel absolved of all the blame for it. Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The knowledge that you were beaten and that this, as your parents tell you, was for your own good may well be retained (although n...ot always), but the suffering caused by the way you were mistreated will remain unconscious and will later prevent you from empathizing with others. This is why battered children grow up to be mothers and fathers who beat their offspringLESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
With all the attention paid to your new baby, it's easy for your own feelings and needs to get lost in the shuffle. Although all p...arents engage in some self-sacrifice for their children, keep in mind that your goal isn't just to raise a happy, healthy child. You want that child to be part of a happy, healthy family as well.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Your toddler is no longer a baby feeling himself as part of you, using you as his controller, facilitator, his mirror for himself ...and the world. But he is not yet a child either; ready to see you as a person in your own right and to take responsibility for himself and his own actions in relation to you.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Guilt is the most destructive of all emotions. It mourns what has been while playing no part in what may be, now or in the future.... Whatever you are doing, however, you are coping, if you listen to your child and to your own feelings, there will be something you can actually do to make things right.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The process of becoming an empathetic, autonomous adult--through all the wondrous and exhilarating and challenging, even painful, ...transitions of emotional growth in childhood--is not unlike learning to walk; each step makes you stronger for the next one. But if your parent is doing the walking for you, you do not have the muscles even to support your own emotional weight. You cannot stand alone.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
You must ascend a mountain to learn your relation to matter, and so to your own body, for it is at home there, though you are not.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »