I would hope that parents and grown children could be friends. When a friend confides in you that she's going to do something that... you think is most inappropriate, foolhardy or even dangerous, wouldn't you as a friend say so--in a calm, supportive way? Yet I have to be so careful what I say to my children. I have to walk on eggs to be sure I'm not hurting their feelings or interfering with their lives.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Within Western medicine, physically ill people approach medical helpers in a manner much different from the psychologically ill. P...hysically ill people bring sick bodies to physicians; emotionally ill people bring sick souls to psychotherapists. Differences in these two forms of helping are visible even in the language; the person in need of medical help is always a "patient," while the person in need of psychotherapy is often a "client." Each form of helping has a particular way of approaching the person needing help. Medical patients are treated, taken care of, and made better by the doctor. Psychotherapy clients must be actively engaged in their healing.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
I feel that any form of so called psychotherapy is strongly contraindicated for addicts.... The question "Why did you start using ...narcotics in the first place?" should never be asked. It is quite as irrelevant to treatment as it would be to ask a malarial patient why he went to a malarial area.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Children who grow up in stimulating, emotionally supportive, highly verbal, and protective environments where the caretaker teache...s and models skill development are usually ready for school. When the child is able to meet expectations, he or she receives praise or a positive feedback in school. This also compliments the caretaker--a child-rearing job well done. The caretaker or parent and school people feel good about each other. The child receives a message from parents that the school program is good. The positive emotional bond between parents and child is extended to the school. The school staff can then serve as parent surrogates. This facilitates learning.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
No authority in the field of child psychology, pediatrics, or child psychiatry advocates the formal instruction, in any domain, of... infants and young children. In fact, the weight of solid professional opinion opposes it and advocates providing young children with a rich and stimulating environment that is, at the same time, warm, loving, and supportive of the child's own learning priorities and pacing. It is within this supportive, nonpressured environment that infants and young children acquire a solid sense of security, positive self-esteem, and a long- term enthusiasm for learning.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
If it is to be done well, child-rearing requires, more than most activities of life, a good deal of decentering from one's own nee...ds and perspectives. Such decentering is relatively easy when a society is stable and when there is an extended, supportive structure that the parent can depend upon.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
In order for an individual to partake of the world and contribute to it in a healthy way, he first needs to view that world as a b...asically kind, friendly, and supportive place. Such an outlook begins to be formed during infancy. It's essential that the baby establish a fundamental trust in his environment. The infant needs to learn that the world is a nurturing place where his needs will be met.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Many people now believe that if fathers are more involved in raising children than they were, children and sons in particular will... learn that men can be warm and supportive of others as well as be high achievers. Thus, fathers' involvement may be beneficial not because it will help support traditional male roles, but because it will help break them down.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
... a supportive husband is an absolute requirement for professional women.... He is something she looks for, and when she finds h...im, she marries him.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »