Kids need to see that their parents may not always be of the same mind, that people who differ, even angrily, can continue in a lo...ving relationship,... that it's okay to argue with a loved one, and that one can do so without risking the love of the other person.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
You and your spouse should consider the arguments you have, not as calamities in the history of your child's development, but as o...pportunities for learning. Take the opportunity to teach your children the art of and value in negotiation, and to demonstrate your ability to empathize, your willingness to compromise, and your readiness to apologize for hurt you have inflicted on others.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Parents are led to believe that they must be consistent, that is, always respond to the same issue the same way. Consistency is go...od up to a point but your child also needs to understand context and subtlety . . . much of adult life is governed by context: what is appropriate in one setting is not appropriate in another; the way something is said may be more important than what is said. . . .LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
For decades child development experts have erroneously directed parents to sing with one voice, a unison chorus of values, politic...s, disciplinary and loving styles. But duets have greater harmonic possibilities and are more interesting to listen to, so long as cacophony or dissonance remains at acceptable levels.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »