Sexual activity, for women, has a history of vulnerability, in a way it simply does not have for men. The mother has to teach this... hidden text to her daughter. The mother's warnings, her attempts to halt sexual development in her daughter, are not so much signs of disapproval or envy, but of fear.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Insults from an adolescent daughter are more painful, because they are seen as coming not from a child who lashes out impulsively,... who has moments of intense anger and of negative feelings which are not integrated into that large body of responses, impressions and emotions we call 'our feelings for someone,' but instead they are coming from someone who is seen to know what she does.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The meaningful role of the father of the bride was played out long before the church music began. It stretched across those years ...of infancy and puberty, adolescence and young adulthood. That's when she needs you at her side.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Wee image of my bonnie Betty, I fatherly will kiss and daut thee,... As dear an' near my heart I set thee Wi' as guid will, As a' the priests had seen me get thee That's out o' hell.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Listening to learn isn't about giving advice--at least not until asked--but about trying to understand exactly what someone means,... how it is that someone looks at and feels about her particular situation.... Listening to learn from a daughter in adolescence, conspiring with her thoughts and feelings, keeps a mother in touch with a daughter's growing and changing self.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
One encounters very capable fathers abashed by their piano-playing daughters. Three measures of Schumann make them red with embarr...assment.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »