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Parenting can be established as a time-share job, but mothers are less good "switching off" their parent identity and turning to s...omething else. Many women envy the father's ability to set clear boundaries between home and work, between being an on-duty and an off-duty parent.... Women work very hard to maintain a closeness to their child. Father's value intimacy with a child, but often do not know how to work to maintain it.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Many women are reluctant to allow men to enter their domain. They don't want men to acquire skills in what has traditionally been ...their area of competence and one of their main sources of self-esteem. So while they complain about the male's unwillingness to share in domestic duties, they continually push the male out when he moves too confidently into what has previously been their exclusive world.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
All adults who care about a baby will naturally be in competition for that baby.... Each adult wishes that he or she could do each... job a bit more skillfully for the infant or small child than the other.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
It is of course, entirely possible that men (or anyone who is relatively privileged) are most defensive, most obstinate and unseei...ng when they are worried about losing privileges.... In the reactions of husbands, I detect a haunting worry about what they will lose when true gender equality arrives.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The traditional American husband and father had the responsibilities--and the privileges--of playing the role of primary provider.... Sharing that role is not easy. To yield exclusive access to the role is to surrender some of the potential for fulfilling the hero fantasy--a fantasy that appeals to us all. The loss is far from trivial.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
When Dad can't get the diaper on straight, we laugh at him as though he were trying to walk around in high-heel shoes. Do we ever ...assist him by pointing out that all you have to do is lay out the diaper like a baseball diamond, put the kid's butt on the pitcher's mound, bring home plate up, then fasten the tapes at first and third base?LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The glorious dream of full father involvement in infant care will not become a widespread reality overnight. But it can happen, an...d it eventually will happen,... A lot of progress may take place in a short period of time if we just lighten up, step back, and give the guys a decent chance.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
A father who will pursue infant care tasks with ease and proficiency is simply a father who has never been led to believe he could...n't.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
Let's face it. With the singular exception of breast-feeding, there is nothing about infant care that a mother is innately better ...qualified to do than a father. Yet we continue to unconsciously perpetuate the myth that men just don't have what it takes to be true partners in the process.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »
The greatest impediments to changes in our traditional roles seem to lie not in the visible world of conscious intent, but in the ...murky realm of the unconscious mind.LESSATTRIBUTION DETAIL »